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What is up, One Degree fam? What is up, fam? Welcome back to the comfy, cozy, virtual leather couch. I feel like we’re kind of in a throwback right now because we used to… That’s so true. I forgot our normal recording time. Used to be really late at night. and… Yeah, always. Well, not always. When we first moved here, we would go over to your parents’ house during the day. But for the last probably two years until…

Until about six months ago, I’d say. I don’t know why ever. No one cares about our timeline. But then we have this revolutionary thought of, on Tuesdays, the kids are out of the house because kids are at grandma’s while I have a bunch of meetings and stuff. And so I have like an hour and a half of lunch break where I, whatever, I’m usually doing stuff and he can take his lunch break. And it was like, why don’t we just start doing them on our lunch break? And it’s been revolutionary for us. And it’s also been revolutionary-ish for…

Sorry, that’s gonna be a theme, unfortunately, this cough. For our YouTube, because it was like natural light, I say revolutionary-ish because it was still just our laptop. But if you’re watching on YouTube, you can see we’re back to the nighttime low quality. What are you I was just turning your gain up. Your thing was a little low. Sorry, I didn’t do a sound check before this. It’s post bedtime, we’re back.

We’re back in the Zans trying to get our brain cells together stage of this podcast, but here we are. So it’s great that today we’re doing an episode where you are the primary speaker. I know. All those late night brain cells. also have no for it’s for real guys. Like after 7 PM, my brain capacity just drastically goes down. need, I have to do like routine tasks at that point, not like things like record a podcast, but here we are. the other thing is I’ve just had this it’s

pitiful, or not pitiful, it just seems pathetic, this cough, because it doesn’t have, you know when you’ve got a wet cough and people are all like, ooh, that’s bad? This is not, they’re like, okay, stop faking it, but it’s bad, it feels, and as I’m talking and stuff, I know it’s gonna get triggered, so I have my hot tea and I’m hoping that I can keep talking, but every time I take a deep breath, this one’s bad. okay. Last week, we talked about what does it look like for a husband to love his wife like Christ loved the church out of Ephesians 5.

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And we did a whole breakdown. did a whole breakdown of it today. We’re to be talking about the kind of the, what are the biggest controversial passage when it comes to marriage of wives submit to husband. What does that look like? Zan’s going to be breaking it down for us, talking through it. What does it mean? What does it look like? All of that fun stuff. To say from the beginning, we were even just talking about it on a drive earlier today. And there’s just so much.

Nuance not necessarily with what Ephesians five means but how it fleshes out because we are even saying like okay, but there’s a limit and we’ll get into this more but like there’s a limit where Okay, but if your spouse’s or your husband is causing harm Like where’s the line there and it’s like, okay, that is so Subjective and also like case by case as far as you know what that looks like and so I just want to give this caveat from the beginning that We’re a podcast like we’re just here sharing an idea like

sharing general words without knowing you, without knowing your situation, without knowing anyone in your life, you know? So I just feel like we’re purposely not going to be speaking super specifically in that, on that And we’re not going to be able to address every single nuance. with like at all. I mean, we’re not even going to try to. So anyway, I want to say that. And I also want to say as I was just like preparing for this and thinking about what does the Ephesians five mean? What does submission mean? What does

it means to be a godly wife, which I think is probably what we’re going to name this episode because the last one was how to be a godly husband. I was like, in so many ways I fall short of this. And so I’m not saying this from a place of do as I do as I say, not as I do. No, I’m just kidding. But I’m not saying this from a place of like, this is everything I’m doing. I feel like I was very convicted of things that I definitely am weakened in this, but

I’ll share all that with you. that was my like little caveat from the beginning that I just wanted to get out there. But okay, so Ephesians five specifically where we read last week, wives, so Ephesians five verse 22, wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the savior of the body.

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Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands and everything. That is the CSV version, for those of you who care. So what does submit actually mean? There’s a lot of, if you just do a Google search, there’s just a lot of controversy, different interpretations, all of this. Even I was telling him that I found something that said, okay, well this is the Greek word and it.

is this military term and you’re a lot, you were even saying like, Oh, I looked into that and I’m sure that I’m not sure about that. And so I think we can look at what, okay. So when you hear submission, we’ll start with this. When you hear submission, I feel like in our, especially in our Western context, there’s this almost like vitreous vitriol vitriol response of just like, no, like that because of so many years of that

be that concept being weaponized against women to silence women to I mean you look at different cultures that would use it very oppressively that it is something that is definitely not even I would say it’s just seen as negative it’s not even seen as neutral and so we want to look without our cultural interpretation and our initial biases at what

what would scripture say that it is. And so starting with what, are you good? What scripture or what submission is not, it’s not, and we talked about this, I think last week, maybe even in this episode or maybe a couple episodes ago, but it’s not this blind obedience. It’s not where you are. And I think that’s sometimes what people think of is you don’t have a voice and you are basically just doing everything that your husband tells you to do.

Like there’s plenty of Eastern, Middle Eastern cultures that that would be the case. Like I said, not losing your voice, not losing your personal identity or personhood, tolerating abuse or sin. Again, that’s where there’s a lot of nuance of what is it? What is abuse? it physical? Is it emotional? Where’s the line on either of those? And submission is not inferiority. It is, we know that both man and woman are made in the image of God and

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There’s not like one is not more superior than the other. We just have different roles in marriage. I’d like to hear where your head is right now. I would just want to say is that I would add in it doesn’t mean tolerating sin in general where you don’t call out sin. You don’t expose sin. You don’t, you know, ask your husband to repent of sin. You don’t blindly

follow into sin, all of those kind of things, because ultimately we see that we must obey God rather than man. And so, there’s that side of it that needs to be addressed. But then also, I, last week, my aim was not to soften the calling of husbands loving their wives like Christ loved the church. And I repeatedly came back to this idea of like, that is a high,

That is a high bar for husbands and that is a self-sacrificial love. We talked about that last week. If you didn’t listen to last week, I would encourage you to do so because I think that really sets the stage for this week and what submission is. so I wouldn’t want you to listen to, I feel like you’re missing out on the context if you listen only to this week and you don’t listen to last week because I don’t want to go into all of what I talked about last week. We already talked about it.

But I think that’s important and it sets the stage. Like don’t want you to hear some of this stuff and be like, well, you didn’t address this, you didn’t address this. I think that we addressed it last week and we really focused on what the high bar and the high calling of husbands, self-sacrificially loving their wives like Christ loved the church. And so I just kind of wanted to set that out there. But so I do want to say, just as I didn’t want to try to lessen the standards or the calling of husbands,

I don’t want to lessen the calling of wives either in the sense of, yes, fully agree that you are not to tolerate sin, you are not to just silently suffer sin. But on the other hand, I think we do need to address that oftentimes we are almost looking for justification for our actions where we will say then, my husband,

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isn’t loving me like Christ loved the church, therefore I am then free to leave the marriage or do this or whatever it may be. So I don’t want to go too far in that opposite direction either, you know? Yeah, for sure. You know, there is definitely abuse out there and it needs to be addressed and you are not called to suffer in silence when it comes to abuse. But also I want to be careful of labeling any sin or anything that we don’t

value or appreciate in our husbands as abuse so that therefore then we can get out of the marriage if that makes sense. Yeah, we say this sensitive to the idea that everyone is coming with a different like predisposition some people I’m thinking saying that

Yeah, I just think in society there are oftentimes things are labeled as emotional abuse when it is sinning against your wife or sinning against your husband. everything that is like lying is a sin. But is it that isolated instance, emotional abuse, you know, like it, it, depends. And I’m saying like some people maybe overly interpret

things as abuse and some people maybe blindly or not blindly but are under interpreting like are not necessarily recognizing because and it all depends on Your surroundings and your background and all of those things and like what you’ve what you believe, you know, yeah for sure Okay, so what submission is Obviously not comprehensively, but when I think about it, it’s this

willing, it’s not necessarily like forced upon, it should, it comes from a place of obedience, but posture of trust. And I think of it as somebody in our small group actually just talked about basically how it flushes out beautifully. And I think it’s the word she used in her marriage. And it was like this idea, cause she had that she got married with this concept of like, going to white knuckle it. Like she was, came from a marriage, which a lot of people were talking about where like mom wore the pants, you know, like mom,

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got things done, mom did the things, dad was more passive. And she went into marriage with that concept and, sorry, basically was like, okay, I’m gonna handle things. I’m gonna make sure our finances, all these things. And her husband was just very, like they grew and learned this like beautiful relationship of I’ll submit to you, I will trust you with these things. She’s like, it is so freeing to go to bed at the end of the night and know that like he,

I know he’s taking care of these things and I can like rest in the fact that he’s taking care of these things. And I think that’s like the purest idea of what it means to be able to submit, to be able to trust, take, to like be able to put yourself in this posture of trusting your husband. And again, I think it’s important, like Nathaniel said, listen to last week’s episode, or more importantly, just read all of Ephesians five in context and understand that calling of husbands because the calling of the wife fits.

most beautifully and fleshes out most beautifully when the calling of the husband is also strived for. Like, it’s not lived out. Like, no one is Jesus. No one has achieved the bar of Jesus, but is striving for that. think that like when the husband is trying to fulfill his calling, the wife fulfilling her calling, it’s just done so much better, for lack of a word. Okay, so submission, a willing posture of trust.

We send that idea of just being free of all the control and responsibility and then honoring that God-given structure in marriage again. This structure, it’s countercultural, especially in our culture, the Western 21st century culture, but it is for our good. Like we can look at all of scripture and see that God gives his commands no matter how countercultural they are for our good.

And it’s an act of faith. This is something we’ve been talking about of trusting God, not just your husband. It’s trusting that your husband is following God, and that can obviously break down into like, what if he’s not? But again, in its purest sense, it’s trusting that your husband is submitting to Christ and that you are submitting to your husband. And so therefore, by this chain of command. And I would even add that it’s…

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living out your calling regardless of what your husband is doing. Just like a husband is called to love his wife like Christ loved the church, even if she’s not a believer, even if she’s not submitting to him, even if, you know, I think of the, of the, think of, sorry, it’s escaping me right now. Hosea, think of Hosea. Loving Gomer and consistently pursuing her and her running off and her sleeping with other men and

You know, obviously that is supposed to be an allegory for God and Israel, but you see that… You see that… You see that idea that husbands are called to love their wives like Christ loved the church regardless of what their wives do. And so I would say that regardless of your husband is a believer or not, the act of submission…

is ultimately an act of worship, not of your husband, but of Christ. It’s seeking to live out your God-given role faithfully. And you can view it as even if your husband isn’t a believer, even if it’s difficult to submit to your husband, view it as not submitting to your husband, but ultimately submitting to Christ. And I think of that in 1 Peter as well, where Peter is talking about, and we’ve mentioned this before, but wives.

If your husband is not a believer, you can win your husband over without a word, but by your conduct. again, I know that, right, what about in cases of abuse? What about in cases of husbands taking advantage of their wives’ submission? And yes, those are very real, tangible things. But we see in Scripture this idea that wives can truly win their husbands over by their conduct, by their submission, by their love.

even when it’s maybe not deserved. And I think that’s the challenge that I would want to leave to wives of what does that look like? How do I live that out? Yeah, that’s good. Okay, so looking at, and this kind of is, that was a segue because you talked about that, but looking at Ephesians 24, now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. So as the church is submitting to Christ, that is the

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parallel, that analogy for wives to their husbands. So the church doesn’t submit to Christ. The church doesn’t follow Christ reluctantly or like, okay, well, I guess I got to do this. Like that’s not how the greater church is submitting to Christ and following him. It’s, it’s out of love and trust and surrender and devotion. Ideally, you know, like that’s how

we as disciples should be submitting to Christ. And so that is kind of the picture here that Paul would be painting for wives is to submit to your husband with love and with trust. yeah, ultimately again, it’s trusting God by trusting your husband. And I would say that,

Well, you even touched on this, whole idea of it’s an act of worship of it’s not just about your earthly relationship. It is pointing to, and we talked about, we talk about this a lot with marriage in general, like your marriage is pointing to the gospel. And so it is pointing to the relationship of Christ in the church and as an act of worship of this act of obedience. And so, yeah, I think that’s just another way to, um,

I guess just like frame it for yourself and understand it for yourself. And so I think when we put, this is something just I was convicted of, like when we think of our marriages, even as a whole, as a picture of something eternal, it makes your Tuesday night arguments so much more significant of like, what is this saying about the gospel with how we’re living out, with how we’re treating each other or with how we’re resolving this and like,

with how you respect and trust and ultimately submit to your husband that is painting an eternal picture of the relationship of Christ in the church. don’t know, it just, for me, it does, it just makes it more impactful. It’s so easy to get laser focused on earthly things, you know? It’s so easy to confine our minds and our just perspective to

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right now in this lifetime that we’re living in. If you’re really getting grandiose with your thoughts, like your whole marriage until you die, you know, like that feels like as big as we can think. But when you think about the eternal picture and significance that you are living in, I don’t know, I just feel like it, it makes it for me at least like easier. I don’t know, like, or just more meaningful.

then yeah, like getting caught up in the cultural implications of things. So I think, do you have anything else to add before we switched to like practical? think we should look at like, what does it actually look like? I think that’s like, that’s common rightful question of like, what does submission look like on Tuesday? I feel like Tuesdays might always been our go to. Is that just universal? Love is a Tuesday.

But we’ve always loved, is it because of that song that we’ve always loved so, like we just picture, you know. Tuesday to me is just like your average day. Yeah. Like what’s, what does it look like on your average day? Before we jump into that, I just wanted to did have something. Yeah, but I didn’t want to interrupt you. that’s good. Cause somebody on YouTube commented that we interrupt each other too much. I did want to add when you were talking about that idea of wives, you know, it’s difficult to submit to husbands.

but view it as an act of worship submitting to Christ and view it through that lens as well. And it’s interesting that we as Christians, we read this passage and we see wives submit to your husbands and we immediately bristle. We’re thinking like, you know? But when we read, when we think of it as, wives submit to Christ, we don’t have that same bristling. And obviously you can point out, yes, a husband is not Christ. A husband is not perfect. A husband is not infallible.

you know, is prideful and can use it for his own selfish gain, whereas Christ has demonstrated that he will not, and he is perfect and everything like that. Knowing all of that, but we immediately have this visceral reaction of, you know, submission to Christ, ooh yeah, that sounds good. Submission to husband, ooh no, that’s bad.

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And I just think of it like reframing it and submission to husband is submission to Christ. And what does that then look like tangibly? I also want to bring up… husband’s like a pastor entity. I do want to also bring up too, it is important that right before this section about husbands and wives, in verse 20 and 21 of chapter 5, Paul here says that…

We are to give thanks always for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another in the fear of Christ. I believe that the ESV says submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. So out of our love for Christ, are to, Christians are to submit to one another and they are to have reverence for Christ. And basically Paul uses this language all throughout the New Testament.

He talks about believers bringing up lawsuits against other believers and bringing them to before judges who are non-believers. And he says, would you not rather be defrauded than to bring up a lawsuit against believers and have it go to a judge of non-believers? Like, what testimony does that give to the church? You should rather be defrauded. And I think that this is a common theme throughout the Christian life and a common calling. And we lose this in Western culture.

how we read scripture that the purpose of following Christ is ultimately for our benefit, but it’s not for earthly benefit. And yes, there are earthly benefits. I think of, okay, you follow the advice of scripture and you have kids within the bounds of marriage and that leads to more stable homes. And yes, that’s a benefit of following Christ. But we see often where the calling is to pick up your cross and follow Jesus, that certain things about being a Christian

Christian are going to make your life on earth harder and more difficult. And we see that throughout scripture. It should. And so when we see this idea of wouldn’t you rather be defrauded, immediately something in us is like, no, if someone wrongs us, even if it’s another Christian, that’s an injustice. And it is. But I go back to Paul’s words, like, would you not rather be defrauded than essentially defame the name of Christ?

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You know, is it not better to be okay with facing injustice yourself? And again, that should be a willing posture. That’s not this excuse to just say that you are to basically experience sin against you and to just suffer in silence. That’s not what I’m saying. But yeah, turn, I mean, there is scripture of turn the other cheek. It’s not supposed to be easy.

Yeah, it’s not. I don’t feel like… I know we are promised trials. We are promised. Persecution. if we aren’t experiencing those in the Christian life, I feel like that begs the question of why, you know? And I think that it’s… I’m speaking to myself too. And I think that it’s good because so often wives were told that, you know, submission means just… you just shut up and obey essentially. And that’s not what submission means.

but just like a pendulum swings, I almost think it swings too far in the other direction sometimes, where we completely lose the weight of the callings that we see in scripture. similar, take it out of the context of marriage, going back to the turn the other cheek, we explain it away, where we don’t allow the weight of that to sit with us, that as Christians, no, we called to turn the other cheek.

We are called to suffer sometimes. It doesn’t drive up church attendance when you preach on these things and really let your congregation sit with it. I’m joking about that, but I’m also serious in the fact that like, there’s a reason that we, things are just watered down, softened because more palatable, more palatable because we don’t, we prioritize whatever it is, popularity, church.

Church attendance, being liked, not having to deal with comfort. Yeah, over being true to Scripture sometimes and being bold in that. So anyway, back to what it looks like on a Tuesday. And so, yeah, think when we, or I think when we look at Ephesians five at the end of that section, not to read it all, but verse 33, to sum up, this is the verse starts with to sum up.

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Each one of you is to love his wife as himself and the wife is to respect her husband. So I think on two, on a Tuesday on every day of the week, looks like respecting your husband. So what did, I think this begs the question also of what does it look like to respect your husband when you don’t feel like he’s earned it? Because I think that’s something that are flesh and. Logically it makes sense of, okay, well I would respect him if he deserved it. But what does that look like? And I think a lot of times it will come down to.

the tongue and the words that you use, the words you use like behind his back and to him, you know, with as far as respect goes. If you’ve listened for a while, this is something for us of just like my tone is something that I think a lot of times can. So I’m saying this from a place of like, even when I go through these and like make a list of what I think it looks like to have practical, like it’s convicting for me of a lot of times, like, okay, well, not necessarily something I do best all the time.

Another I do want to sorry before we move on I do want to add kind of more tangibly Okay, what does it look like to respect your husband even when he hasn’t? Flesh that out more specifically. I think that it would mean the following it doesn’t again the pendulum It doesn’t mean that you just suffer in silence when it comes to sin. It doesn’t mean that you don’t seek help It doesn’t mean that you don’t call out sin of if your husband is

is sinning, it means, hey, I really think that, you know, you need to repent and you need to turn to the Lord and you need to forsake this sin that has a hold on your life. You know, that is a very real thing that a wife should be able to point out. Now, what the respect piece looks like that even if he’s not perfect, even if he continues to fall into sin, but that as he’s making efforts, that you’re supporting him in those efforts, that you’re not cutting him down.

You know, using the example of maybe he’s going through an addiction to pornography and he’s trying to get clean and, you know, he has slip ups. You’re not denigrating him. You’re not, you know, hey, yeah, or something like that of, you know, hey, it’s been a week since I’ve last watched porn. just give it another couple of days and it won’t be a week anymore. You know, where you’re constantly cutting him down or, you know, talking behind your back, talking behind their back of

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yeah, it’s only been a week and you know, you’re talking negatively about it to a pastor, to a friend where you can address that specific sin of, yeah, hey, so and so he’s really struggling, but he’s making a lot of efforts. I would appreciate prayer and, you know, support and I would appreciate you following up with me and for him, but I appreciate the effort he’s making. And so just that idea of, hey, you’re not excusing the sin. You’re not staying silent about it, but you’re also

supporting and loving your husband as they’re making strides and you’re not cutting them down. You’re not detracting from the efforts that they’re making. And I think that’s a, that’s a big key. yeah. That’s good. And it segues into the next one I had on my list of being his greatest encourager. So building up and not tearing him down. I think just like, in my mind, it’s like being their biggest cheerleader, like when they feel discouraged, like speaking life and

reminding them why they’re capable of something or why they’re, you know, like valuable or whatever, whatever it is, it depends on what there’s discouragement there, but just being his greatest encourager because you likely should be the person who knows him best and can speak on the most intimate level. And then guarding your influence in the home. So that whole idea of

When mom’s not happy, no one’s happy. Whatever it is, women or wives can really set the temperature. think both can obviously, but really set the temperature for the home. so using that productively to build up the home and not to either manipulate it or just bring it down. Just being conscious of the influence that you have in your home and in your marriage. then starting, we were talking about this earlier of like, I think that’s so much of

submission, I really think the only way that it can be done remotely purely is through the power of the Holy Spirit. And so that requires being in a close relationship with the Lord, being filled with the Spirit, being renewed with the Spirit on a daily basis, and being, I mean, practically in prayer and knowing what the Word says. And yeah, just being rooted in your own relationship with the Lord as a wife.

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is just going to overflow into your relationship with your husband. Having the next one, having hard conversations with grace. We talk a lot about this of just, it’s not, it’s not being silent. It’s not, not bringing up hard things. It’s not calling, not calling out sin or things that disappoint you or you know, whatever it is, complaints of any type.

but it is doing those with grace and doing those gently. I think we did an episode even within the last five episodes on like how to bring up hard conversations because that matters. So yeah, I would say at the end of the day when lived out in its purest sense, which of course we’re sinful beings and so wives are going to sin.

and be selfish, husbands are gonna sin and be selfish. But in its original design, this is a very freeing structure of husbands striving to be as like Christ and wives striving to be like the church and trusting and deferring to their husband. And yeah, just being able to walk in that freedom and not…

Again, it’s not a matter of inferiority. It’s a matter of like you are your husband’s helper that we see that in Genesis and we’ve talked about that too. I feel like I referencing all these old concepts, but yeah, think it’s just, sorry, living out exactly who God designed each of you individually to be and who God designed you to be as one in your covenantal relationship.

Yeah, and I would just add there when we see that idea of helper, you’ve talked about this a lot in Genesis. Yeah, the word is Easer and what it typically refers to is a military aide, someone who is alongside fighting battles right there with them. You know, it’s not a maid or a servant or anything like that. It is someone that is right alongside fighting battles with them. And it’s actually also used to describe God to Israel.

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in other passages of Scripture. And I think that is what we see is, you know, the calling of a wife to be right there, to be fighting the battles, to be present, to have an active role in that. And that’s where I think I would go back. Submission is an active role, not a passive role. yeah, that’s good. We were talking about that the other day. And I think that can be difficult for us to comprehend, but…

That’s I would say that’s what it is and I think that I would also add well because it’s this I think our flesh I Feel like our flesh passively wants to control. I think that is our sin. We’ve talked about this of like the man’s flesh It defers to being passive and the woman’s flesh defers to or like is predisposition to want to control and because that’s

the counter to our original design and our God given roles. And so, yeah, I think that’s why you said it’s difficult to understand. For me, I’m just explaining why I think that it is an active role of actively reminding yourself and actively choosing to not control actively choosing. It can be hard to choose surrender over, you know, white knuckling or yeah, just wanting to be in control.

have influence over everything. And I also just wanted to add to your point that it’s supposed to be liberating. It is supposed to be freeing, taking the burden. It’s supposed to be the husband’s self-sacrificially loving like Christ loved the church, taking the burden of whatever it may be, taking the burden of feeling the weight of finances, feeling the weight of parenting, feeling the weight of spiritual disciplines, feeling the weight of that for the family, knowing that

Husbands, you were going to be held to account for how you led and stewarded your family. I just go back to that where, you know, in the garden where God approached Adam first, did you eat from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from? you know, even though it might have been Eve that was tempted, Adam was the first one held to account. And similarly, that is a big burden for husbands that you’re going to be held to account for how you led your family, how you loved and served your wife, how you

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raised and stewarded the souls of your children. And that is a huge calling. And ultimately what submission does, it frees the wife from that burden. And you might think like, that sounds so cheesy. But in reality, if we really believe that there is a God and that we will face Him one day after we die and that we will be held to account,

and that husbands, you are going to be held to account for how you led your family. That is a weighty, weighty matter. And wives, yes, you will also be held to account for your actions and your deeds, but that primary responsibility falls on the husband and how you can submit and support and still take an active role in your family for wives is important. But that primary

weight falls on the husband and in its truest purest form when the husband is seeking to love his wife like Christ loved the church It is supposed to take that burden off of his wife. And as you’re saying that i’m thinking so if you love your husband, which presumably you do you I’m just imagining like you standing before the lord giving an account shouldn’t all my days be Making every effort to make that a good report

You know, shouldn’t all shouldn’t that’s I think how it’s lived out on a Tuesday of how can I and that’s the truest sense of either that’s the truest sense of helper. How can I make you have a better report in all those areas? How can I help you help our family more? Have a better spiritual life. How can I help you do these things more? Faithfully so that when you stand before God,

you can say that you’ve made every effort. And that’s so good. And this brings us back full circle. Because if you’re listening and you’re hearing of like, why is it all about the husband? Well, because in Ephesians 5, what does it say the husband is to do? Love his wife like Christ loved the church. And what did Christ do for the church? He sanctified her. He made her holy, cleansing her with the washing of the water by the word.

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He did this to present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle. So, as a wife, is trying to think about that and, like you were just saying, make it to be where, hey, you are doing all that you can, that when I am standing before God, that it is a good report. The husband is doing all that he can to make his wife holy, without blemish, spiritually leading the family, and also,

having that mindset of she’s going to stand before the Lord one day and I’m going to do all that I can to make it a good report. And I think that’s the beauty of it. That’s the beauty of self-sacrificial leading by the husband and then submission by the wife. Marriage is best lived out when each spouse is thinking about the other one before themselves. It is best lived out when the husband is thinking more about his wife’s needs.

than his own. It is best lived out when the wife is thinking more about her husband’s needs than her own. And again, we live in a fallen, broken world where it is difficult to do that in our flesh, but with the power of the Holy Spirit, we are empowered to live that out. And that is the beautiful picture of the gospel. And I think that’s where we bring it full circle. just that, that is a beautiful, beautiful picture. Mic drop. Yeah.

but picking up the mic real quick to give you your one degree shift for the week. So if you’re new here, one degree shift, we believe that significant drastic transformation happens with one, one degree shift at a time taking, if you have a plane and you change the trajectory of that plane one degree when traveling over many thousands of miles, it is going to end up in a drastically different location than had you not taken that one degree trajectory shift. And so

That’s what we wrap up every episode with a one degree shift. And today we’re going to say for wives, ask your husband this week. This is bold. So do it if you dare. But in what one area do you need me to trust you more and then listen without being defensive? So not, well I trust you more if blank, but just listening to what comes to mind when he’s asked that. Yeah, that’s good. All right. We’ll catch you next week. One degree fam. Love you fam.

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